By African American Books Author Denise Turney

To live your best life, you must exercise courage. There’s no way around this fact. As a start, it takes courage to admit the truth to yourself. For instance, it takes courage to admit that you’re stuck, feel fear or are conflicted. More importantly, it takes courage to do what it takes to get to where you most want to be. And it takes courage to make hard choices, a necessity to move forward.

Courage Is Key

However, maybe you’re thinking the way that I used to. Perhaps you don’t think courage is the key.

Years ago, I thought that getting to where I wanted to be required me to always be kind, reliable and accommodating. Looking back, I can see where the “accommodating” part held me back. Why?

A goal to be accommodating requires you to keep your thumb on the pulse of what other people are thinking and feeling. Before you know it, you’re no longer pursuing your “real” goal. Instead, you’re aiming to make other people happy or satisfied. And that’s a job that never ends.

Now, I realize that achieving your goals requires courage. It’s not about how nice you are (not that being nice isn’t good; it is).

Look At This

Here’s another way of looking at this. Think about the people you admire. No. Really. Is there a common trait that these people share? This trait might be the very thing that you need to put into action to move forward. If you look close at the people you admire, it wouldn’t be surprising to see these people using courage to make hard choices.

Considering people you admire, Harriet Tubman is my all-time heroine. Other women who I admire include Mary McLeod Bethune, Shirley Chisholm, Amelia Earhart and Joan of Arc. For years, I focused on specific acts that these women are known for.

Then, it hit me. All these women are champions because they each exercised courage, and not just once. They exercised courage over and over. They made hard choices that held tremendous impact for their own lives and the lives of others. In fact, they faced seemingly insurmountable obstacles. These women champions did what had for so long appeared to be impossible.

What Champions Do

But, that’s what champions do. They face their fears, stir up their courage and get it done.

Back to your heroes and heroines, what common thread moves between them? Do you recognize this common thread in yourself? If not, what would your life be like if you applied this same trait to what you do?

What would your life be like if you applied courage to thoughts, decisions and actions that you take? Live with courage and you might not reach the end of your earth journey only to look up with regret as you consider all the things you wished that you had done but never gathered the courage to do.

Just know that along the way, you may need to exercise courage to make a hard choice. That hard choice could come when someone ask you to lie to cover a mistake or a wrong or when you’re tempted to scheme your way through a storm. A hard choice could also point toward whether or not you are going to keep working a job that you know you don’t like, a job that drains you of joy-energy, or unplug and go after your wildest dreams!

Stir Up Your Courage

Quick tips to stir up courage include watching videos of people who are using courage to make hard choices that expand love for everyone. Reading books about people who use courage to progress may also help. Here’s another tip that’s easy to implement.

Pay attention (really pay attention) to how you feel. Yes – pay attention to how you feel when you’re doing work that you only engage in for a paycheck. Then, pay attention to how you feel when you’re doing what you love. Depending on the extent of the contrast, you could feel an immediate shift as soon as you start doing what you love.

Value joy? Consider listing specific actions that you can take to get from where you are to where you want to be. Write these specific actions down. You also might need to be willing to take smart risks. Measure the results of your actions. Keep going. After all, would you rather live a life of endurance (where you just endure situations) or would you rather exercise courage, make hard, smart choices and move forward in joy?

By Books Writer Denise Turney

Photo by Chinmay Singh

Knowing what’s coming next in your life feels great, especially if you’re about to receive a blessing. Simply living with clear insight is satisfying, offering comfort, confidence, hope and security. Gone is the guessing, no more dealing with life mysteries. Also, gone is the urge to prepare for a range of possibilities.

Life Mysteries – Don’t You Wish You Had a Crystal Ball

Don’t you wish that you had a crystal ball or an internal magnet that led you into the right relationships and experiences at the right time? It would be nice. Yet, life doesn’t often progress in a way that allows you to clearly know what’s coming next.

Instead, life presents mysteries. Some of life’s mysteries are fascinating, exciting. These types of mysteries include an offer for a legitimate job that you weren’t even looking for, request to go on a date with someone you’ve long admired or a record-breaking athletic performance. Ask an athlete who’s been in the flow what it feels like to make score after score, seemingly on auto pilot, and they’d likely tell you that it was one of the more exhilarating experiences they’ve had.

Talk about a great life mystery.

Shocking Experiences and Life Mysteries

Then, there’s the shocking telephone call from a relative or friend informing you that someone you’re close to has passed. Or maybe you get called into a private office at work, the place where human resources tells you that you’ve been laid off. Of course, there’s the chance that when you visit the auto mechanic for a simple oil change, you learn that your brakes and transmission need to be replaced.

To deal with these and other life mysteries, you could do your darndest to prepare for the future. For starters, you could buy life, auto and homeowners/renter’s insurance (smart moves). Additionally, you could eavesdrop on private conversations, doing your best to pinpoint what other people are thinking, planning and doing. That, or you could ask people questions that reveal what they’re planning.

But you’d risk being perceived as nosey.

Another option would be to research-research-research every idea and opportunity before you make a decision. While this option might seem to offer comfort, it could push you into perfectionism and procrastination. On top of that, it could add stress to your life.

Check Out These Smart Decisions to Deal with Life Mysteries

Smart ways to deal with life mysteries require your mind to be open. You definitely can’t go around thinking that you know everything or that your perceptions and beliefs are always right. In addition to keeping an open mind, you could:

• Write down your dreams, as they offer clues to what you’re focusing on (sometimes dreams also offer glimpses into what’s coming next)
• Journal to tap into your subconscious and work through mental blocks
• Eat a healthy diet, including drinking healthy beverages
• Get outside at least once a day (oh, the wonder of nature)
• Read books about mysteries that appear in your life, particularly how other people handled similar mysteries when they showed up in their life
• Talk through unexpected experiences with a good friend
• Join a support group that focuses on the specific type of experience you’re working to move through

Mysteries pop up now and then. Even if you plan, prepare and live a rote life filled with repetition, there will be mysteries and surprises. Although some of these surprises might lend to sorrow or frustration, when you think about it, absent mysteries, life can become boring.

What You Learn About Yourself When Life Gets Mysterious

It can definitely help to accept that your conscious mind does not know everything. Pay attention to your dreams and emotional guidance system. Doing so could clue you in to what’s coming next. Above all, accept that you’re capable of more than you imagine.

You might even find it helpful to review how you’ve handled previous mysteries. For certain, you survived those surprises. If you’re happy and at peace, you also bounced back. That’s a sign that you’re flexible and resilient.

Still taking smart risks? For certain, you’re courageous! All in all, life mysteries reveal a lot about you. Before the next mystery shows up, it might prove a blessing to examine just how resilient, courageous, confident and faithful you are. Here’s to what’s coming next!