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By Denise Turney
\nIt’s not a woman’s job to teach a man to love. Just reading the sentence alone might upset some. For years, women have been depicted as the saviors of men, the only people who could open men up to love. This belief caused (still causes) women to pay a heavy price.<\/p>\n

For example, some women refuse to leave an abusive man, whether the man abuses her sexually, financially, psychologically or physically. Reasoning behind their refusal to leave may be that their presence helps the men in their lives to learn to love, to open up and accept love, to change and become a better person. Other women may feel that if they leave a man, the man won’t survive or will completely fall off the deep end.<\/p>\n

But, if you look closely, you may see an air of arrogance, not to mention insanity, in that thought. To think someone couldn’t survive unless you allowed them to hurt you couldn’t be anything short of insanity. So, why do so many women do it?<\/p>\n

Of course, many men don’t look to a woman to make them feel whole, complete, worthwhile. Not every man needs to juggle several women romantically or sexually to feel like he really<\/i> is a man.<\/p>\n

Howbeit, even loving men have lessons they can learn. But, women aren’t always the teachers.<\/p>\n

To come to a place where we don’t believe we have to sacrifice anything<\/i> in order for another person to get a life lesson . . . to wake up, would be a blessing. For some women, achieving this could take years of reconditioning, deprogramming old beliefs we’ve heard passed down through generations of women within and outside our families.<\/p>\n

Thank you for reading my blog. To learn what happens to Raymond, Brenda and the other characters in <\/i>Love Pour Over Me<\/i><\/a>, hop over to Amazon.com, B&N.com, <\/i>Ebookit.com<\/i><\/a>, or any other online or offline bookseller and get your copy of Love Pour Over Me<\/span> today. And again I say \u2013 Thank You! Consider Love<\/span>.<\/i><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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