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Let me start this blog post by sharing that I do not believe in death. To me, death is an illusion. But something clearly happens when we exit our bodies. That change seems to make it impossible to reach across the aisle and connect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Expanding Communication Pathways<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Centuries\nago, we thought that about space and distance. If someone traveled to another\ncontinent, it was as if they were “gone”. Think about it, the\ntelegraph was invented by Samuel Morse in 1837. Additionally, mail systems may\nhave started during the Zia or Shang dynasties, as far back as 2070 BC. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Before then, when someone moved to another country, or worse, another continent, it was as if they had disappeared forever. After all, there seemed to be no other way to communicate with the person who was “out of sight” and space, far far away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Today, technology has erased those impossibilities. But could we have found ways to communicate with those who seemed so far away (and still in their bodies) prior to the launch of the telegraph, mail systems, the Internet, face time and instant messaging? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And could it be possible to talk to the dead<\/em> in ways that many are not aware of? As with the invention of advanced technological communication tools, those communication pathways may be most open if you live with an open, flexible mind.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, to the signs that a “dead” person is trying to communicate with you. For starters, electrical appliances might go nuts, blinking or blaring if a departed loved one communicates with you. Lights might turn off and on. Familiar scents that are associated with the loved one who is no longer in their body might fill a room. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, people who don’t know the deceased might say the person’s name. For example, while I was on a train heading home from work, a group of kids outside a hospital shouted my departed son’s name over and over, about 12 to 15 times. It was as if the kids were making a song of his name, not as if they were calling out to a friend.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even more, a stranger might tell you something that is directly related to your loved one who is no longer in their body, something that the stranger clearly does not know. For example, when I was preparing to move to a new city, I spoke with a representative at a moving company. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The very first time that I spoke with someone at the moving company, the representative who answered the phone asked, “Is this the Denise who recently lost her brother or dog?” It was an out-of-the-blue question, totally unrelated to the move. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I had never spoken with the representative before, didn’t know the guy at all. I had never told anyone at the company that my son had transitioned. A moment later after I didn’t respond, the guy said, “Guess I had the wrong Denise.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n Dreams are open pathways through which you can communicate with a departed loved one, so pay attention to your dreams. But as with any circumstance, don’t become obsessed. Your life here matters, and it’s important that you live it fully. Strong emotion while in a certain location, intuitive direction and inner guidance are other ways to communicate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As with any other inner communication, you may have to take action to receive the full communication. For example, you might receive a message to go get your loved one’s picture. After you get the picture, your loved one might tell you that she’s right there next to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, you might be asked to turn on a certain television show. After you turn on the television show, you hear someone on the show ask, “If your loved one spoke with you, what would he tell you right now?” Another person on the television show might respond, “He would tell me that he’s still here, with me right now.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n The good news is that it is not necessary to pay a medium to talk to the dead. In fact, the best mediums will encourage you to communicate with your loved one on your own. Keeping an open mind may be the best way to talk to the dead.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This cannot be overstated. If you are dealing with grief, a process that could continue for the remainder of your physical expression, you may keep the lines of communication between you\u00a0and your departed loved one going by writing or typing letters to your loved one.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Despite your\ndoubts, you might be surprised how healing writing your loved one letters can\nbe. Another thing that might help you, is accepting communication signs from\nthe dead without criticism or judgment. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As you continue your journey, love yourself. Be patient with yourself. Be very, very patient with yourself. Also, allow yourself to experience peace and joy. Let yourself feel the emotion of happiness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As someone who has had both of her parents to transition, all of her grandparents and my son transition – I know that the first days, weeks and months after a loved one departs their body can be near impossible to get through. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Shock, sorrow, guilt, regret and intense sadness can feel overwhelming. The first few days, it may be hard if not impossible to relax, let alone sleep at night. That could go on for weeks. You might start crying, like I did, while shopping for shoes, buying groceries or driving your car.<\/p>\n\n\n\nIs a Departed Loved One Communicating <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Coming Through an Open Pathway<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
How to Talk to the Dead<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Dealing With Grief<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
Give Yourself Time<\/h2>\n\n\n\n